I am so sick and tired of scrolling/browsing through tumblr (and some other sites, too) and finding posts relating to low self esteem. I am finally in a place where I’m starting to not care so much about what other people think and more about what I think of myself. But seeing these posts…it kinda tugs me back in the other direction, if only for a minute. It’s not just those posts though; it’s every day experiences. I notice how my peers are so quick to tease and make shallow remarks. And don’t get me wrong, I’m not above that. I’ve done it. But I’m trying really hard to stop doing it.
I’m no better than anyone else. I shouldn’t judge, but I do. I pick out imperfections and flaws which I could match, if not exactly then similarly, in myself. But the truth is, there’s some good in everyone. I’m not gonna go out of my way to find it all the time, but it’s there.
I just wish, especially for all the ladies in my generation, that we’d learn to see some more of that good in ourselves. Honestly, I think that’s a big-ass stepping stone to finding it in others. I mean, come on. Why pick out the flaw in yourself, when you can pick it out on someone else? It’s the trap we all fall into at least once: I don’t feel pretty, but talking shit about her will make me feel prettier, right? Wrong.
To my ladies: you are all beautiful. No really: you are. I am, with my frizzy hair and skinny legs. You are, with your chubby middle and crooked teeth. She is, with her flat chest and pimples. Everyone has something they don’t like about themselves. The thing is, those physical traits we don’t like, tend to overshadow the ones we do like. After a while “My this or that is too… this or that. I’m ugly,” simply turns into: “I’m ugly.”
That’s a damn lie. You are beautiful. You are pretty. And you need to start seeing it in yourself, otherwise no one else will. It’s cliche, but it’s the truth. Straight up.
So here’s to five days of showcasing the love I’ve found for myself thus far (in this challenge thing that I’m making up as I go along) and hopefully, to many days of helping others find some love for themselves.